Wedding Guest Etiquette: What to Do (and Avoid) This Wedding Season

Wedding season is coming up, which means you’ll probably be attending at least one celebration in the next few months. Whether you're a wedding pro or this is your first one, it’s always good to know the dos and don’ts of being a great guest. After all, weddings take a lot of time (and money) to plan, so a little consideration goes a long way. Here’s what to keep in mind so you can enjoy the day while keeping things smooth for the couple.

Read ALL the Information
Before reaching out to the couple with questions, take a moment to thoroughly read the invitation and wedding website (if they have one). Most of the details like the dress code, venue location, start time, and accommodations are already provided. This helps avoid unnecessary back and forth and ensures you’re well prepared for the big day. If you still have a question after checking, then it’s totally fine to ask!

RSVP on Time
If the invitation asks you to RSVP by a certain date, don’t put it off just do it. The couple needs an accurate headcount for seating, catering, and other logistics, so responding on time is a simple way to be respectful. If something comes up and you can no longer attend, let them know as soon as possible. Whatever you do, don’t text the bride or groom on their wedding day to cancel they have enough on their plate without worrying about last minute no shows! If you RSVPd yes, you should make every effort to be there, but emergencies happen!

Don’t Bring an Uninvited Plus One
Unless your invitation specifically says you get a plus one, don’t assume you can bring a date. Weddings have budgets and seating plans, and unexpected guests can throw things off. If you're unsure, check with the couple, but if the invite says just your name, it typically means just you!

Dress for the Occasion
Check the invitation for a dress code. If there isn’t one, consider the venue and time of day. This is a special day for the couple, you should dress for the occasion! When in doubt, go a little dressier rather than too casual.

Avoid Wearing White (or Anything Close to It)
White, ivory, or champagne outfits are usually reserved for the bride unless told otherwise. Even if your outfit has a white base with patterns, it’s better to pick another color to be safe. The day is not about you, you can sacrifice that cream colored dress for another occasion!

Arrive on Time
Showing up late to the ceremony isn’t just awkward, it can also disrupt the moment. It's always so hard to watch guests try to sneak in as the bridal party is lined up and already walking in. Try to arrive at least 15 to 20 minutes early so you have time to find your seat and settle in.

Put Your Phone Away During the Ceremony
Unless the couple says otherwise, keep your phone on silent and in your pocket during the ceremony. Many weddings are unplugged so professional photographers can capture the moment without a bunch of phones in the way.

Respect the Seating Arrangements
If there’s assigned seating at the reception, stick to it. The couple (or their planner) put thought into where everyone should sit, whether for social reasons or family dynamics.

Pace Yourself at the Bar
An open bar is a great perk, but moderation is key. Enjoy yourself, but be mindful of how much you’re drinking no one wants to be remembered as the guest who had one too many. Also, don’t waste drinks by leaving half finished glasses everywhere. Just because you’re not paying for them doesn’t mean someone else isn’t!

Celebrate with the Couple
Take a moment to congratulate the newlyweds and enjoy the event. Sign the guest book, mingle with other guests, and hit the dance floor! Weddings are meant to be fun so have fun!

Don’t Forget a Gift
Even if you can’t make it, sending a small gift or card is a thoughtful gesture. If they have a registry, that’s the easiest way to pick something they’ll love. A heartfelt card also goes a long way if you’re on a budget.

Final Thoughts
Being a great wedding guest isn’t complicated it’s really just about being considerate. A little effort goes a long way in making the couple’s big day even better. So, dress appropriately, show up on time, and enjoy the celebration!